no see lesbians are not more accepted than gay men they’re more sexualized please do not get those 2 things confused
One of the things I find maddening about this is how few people are willing to acknowledge that society doesn’t have a place for women who aren’t sexually interested in men. Like, the most popular types of feminism on the planet, your Jessica Valenti, Feministe types, often lead into feminism by being like “so many people think only lesbians are feminists, but I’m totally not a lesbian! Most feminists aren’t!”, which is probably true, but also…not really the point of combating the feminism = lesbian myth. And like, I got SUPER weird looks and questions from so many people when I still lived in a dorm, some people implied I was a sexual predator, etc. And on top of that, I’ve literally heard dudebros chant at a v-day demonstration “dykes get raped”. So it’s layers on layers of bullshit, and at the end of the day, most people think lesbianism isn’t possible, and the ones who think it is possible think it’s all about not liking dick rather than being STRONGLY INTERESTED IN WOMEN. It’s a gross and shitty space to occupy, and I want to smack all the people who say gay men are more accepted - esp since in my social circles, they tend to be slash fans who honestly think only skinny white dudes could ever be gay.